As we’re coming up on Halloween, I can think of so many conversations (and I’m sure you can too!) that went something like “I can’t keep this food in the house!” “Get that candy away from me” “I can’t stop eating candy once I start. I only keep it around for a few days a year, then it’s out of the house.”

This makes many of us feel like we need strict rules around candy, favorite foods, or food we feel out of control around. Those rules can SEEM like they give us control over food, but really they reinforce the binge-restrict, black & white mentality around food, and it backfires. Think about the times when you have had those strict rules around food and eating in the past, how long was that sustainable? How did you feel when you did have access to those foods? Did you ever feel guilt, shame or negative feelings come up when you did have those foods?


Any kind of restriction, mental – like “diet starts tomorrow” – can set off this black & white, binge-restrict response. By changing this pattern of eating, can help you neutralize foods so that you can ditch the food guilt, rules and ‘diet starts tomorrow’ mentality.

Scarcity vs. Abundance

Think about in the beginning of the COVID pandemic, when there was a supposed threat of stores running out of toilet paper. We saw on the news people taking rolls and rolls of toilet paper out of fear that there might not be enough in the future. The reaction of stocking up on toilet paper ‘just in case’ is similar to how our bodies react and feel when we mentally or physically restrict foods or say ‘this is the last time I’ll let myself have this food’. The way we respond to scarcity is by trying to protect ourselves and have enough to get through that time of limited access. The way we combat scarcity is by building up trust with our bodies and selves that we will continue to provide enough food, regularly by creating an environment of abundance.

Examples of scarcity:

Examples of abundance:

How to move from scarcity to abundance

1. Make sure you are eating enough variety of food regularly, throughout the day. If we aren’t eating enough, you are going to be feeling out of control – your body is trying to ensure you have enough to eat.

2. Neutralize food – ditch the labels: ‘good’ ‘bad’ ‘guilty’ ‘healthy’ or ‘unhealthy’ – food has no moral value.

3. Keep foods that are normally ‘off-limits’ to you in the house and available to you, and allow yourself to eat them! This might mean keeping ‘off-limits’ foods stocked in the house and letting yourself have it whenever you crave it.

In the beginning, you might want this food often and it might taste really, really amazing. Eventually, as you continue to allow yourself to have this food, it might still taste amazing to you, but since it’s a food that’s always available, it will lose some of its charge so that you can start to choose to have it in a satisfying amount, or not, without guilt, or feeling out of control.

Allowing foods to be available without the threat of being restricted again, tomorrow, or next Monday, allows you to rebuild trust within your body and eventually helps you to notice and navigate what hunger, fullness and different foods feel like to you.

The myth is that we need more control over our body and what we eat. The truth is that we need more trust that our body doesn’t need to be tricked.

If you’re ready to make peace with food and your body, book a discovery call to learn about our NEW 10-week group coaching program that starts this November.

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